So Herodias nursed a grudge against John and wanted to kill him. But she was not able to, because Herod feared John and protected him, knowing him to be a righteous and holy man…. – Mark 6:19-20 (see Mark 6:14-29) NIV
Stop Nursing a Grudge
Today three words have been on my mind, “nursing a grudge.” I think of Herodias, who we are told in Mark nursed a grudge against John the Baptist. He publicly exposed how wrong it was for Herodias to be with Herod, her husband’s brother. She tricked Herod into beheading John because she was so furious with him.
To nurse means to feed, to suckle, or to encourage. Grudge means resentment, animosity, hatred, disdain. So when we nurse a grudge, we are in essence feeding resentment, which always brings death. It might not mean beheading, but it can mean the death of a relationship, a way of life, or even respect.
Opportunities to hold a grudge will come, but what if we didn’t feed them? What if we refused to even give them a place in our thoughts? When the temptation comes to nurse a grudge, what if we proclaimed the person forgiven by faith no matter how we feel? What if we choose to love them regardless of their actions?
Life is short, and keeping shorter accounts of wrongs is a must. We can’t stop unfair treatment, but we can refuse to encourage it in our minds. His grace is sufficient.
Pray for the wisdom to stop a grudge before it starts. Never let hurt feelings fester. Expose the enemy’s tactics.
Don’t wait on feelings. Forgive by faith, refuse to hold a grudge, and the feelings will come later.